I've gone my whole life without technically sexually harassing someone. I'm sure in my drinking days, I probably crossed a line or two SOMEWHAT, but I've never just out right sexually harassed someone. Let me also point out, I'm as horny as anyone else.
The thought of sexually harassing someone makes me uncomfortable because I'm terrified of being turned down. Even in my most insanely bostful and egotistical days, never did I put myself or anyone in that position. Also, isn't sex more fun when the other person reciprocates it?
Let's take Louis C.K. for instance:
(THIS WILL BE INSANELY DIRTY - SO IF YOU'RE OFFENDED BY GRAPHIC SEXUAL TALK, PLEASE CLICK AWAY. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED.)
Louis C.K.'s move was to get women alone and then start masturbating.
Men are always sending dick pics to females these days. Ask women you know about penis pics. 9 times out of 10 you will get crazy stories about guys sending women pictures of their dicks, of course unsolicited. Why? Why would anyone think that's sexy or hot? What do men think is going to happen when the chick sees that picture? Is she going to be so turned on; so insatiable, that she's going to come to where you are and jump on it?
Same with Louis and this idea of his just jacking it in front of women. It's SO SO GROSS! I'm a DUDE and I think it's gross. Imagine how a woman feels about it.
And too, it's about power. I'm sure the person who does something like this gets off on it because in their head they feel like they are dominating someone. Some people really get off on doing things they know they shouldn't be doing, no matter how sleazy or shitty it makes them look.
GEORGE TAKAI has now been accused of sexual harassment.
GEORGE TAKAI? Who's next, BILL COSBY? No, wait!
Here is the latest on the Louis C.K. story where he ADMITS he did it:
I want to address the stories told to The New York Times by five women named Abby, Rebecca, Dana, Julia who felt able to name themselves and one who did not.
These stories are true. At the time, I said to myself that what I did was O.K. because I never showed a woman my dick without asking first, which is also true. But what I learned later in life, too late, is that when you have power over another person, asking them to look at your dick isn’t a question. It’s a predicament for them. The power I had over these women is that they admired me. And I wielded that power irresponsibly. I have been remorseful of my actions. And I’ve tried to learn from them. And run from them. Now I’m aware of the extent of the impact of my actions. I learned yesterday the extent to which I left these women who admired me feeling badly about themselves and cautious around other men who would never have put them in that position. I also took advantage of the fact that I was widely admired in my and their community, which disabled them from sharing their story and brought hardship to them when they tried because people who look up to me didn’t want to hear it. I didn’t think that I was doing any of that because my position allowed me not to think about it. There is nothing about this that I forgive myself for. And I have to reconcile it with who I am. Which is nothing compared to the task I left them with. I wish I had reacted to their admiration of me by being a good example to them as a man and given them some guidance as a comedian, including because I admired their work.
The hardest regret to live with is what you’ve done to hurt someone else. And I can hardly wrap my head around the scope of hurt I brought on them. I’d be remiss to exclude the hurt that I’ve brought on people who I work with and have worked with who’s professional and personal lives have been impacted by all of this, including projects currently in production: the cast and crew of Better Things, Baskets, The Cops, One Mississippi, and I Love You, Daddy. I deeply regret that this has brought negative attention to my manager Dave Becky who only tried to mediate a situation that I caused. I’ve brought anguish and hardship to the people at FX who have given me so much The Orchard who took a chance on my movie. and every other entity that has bet on me through the years. I’ve brought pain to my family, my friends, my children and their mother.
I have spent my long and lucky career talking and saying anything I want. I will now step back and take a long time to listen. Thank you for reading.
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